If someone you care about says “if you love me, then you would (fill in the blank),” you are actually hearing that person’s anxieties. Underlying these anxieties is a need to control the parameters of how love is shown. You want your partner to make you feel better by trying to communicate in the only […]
I enjoy the holidays. Back when I was younger I would travel to see my family every year, always getting excited beforehand, beginning each trip with the idyllic fantasy of the ideal family holiday experience. As the first day or two passed by, I would struggle to stay upbeat in the face of the predictable […]
A vital but overlooked component of enjoying healthy, happy and fulfilling relationships is setting boundaries. Being social creatures with inherent tendencies to avoid conflict with others, humans have difficulty establishing boundaries. Although some people experience less problems with setting boundaries that they expect others to appreciate, most of us balk at the idea of telling […]
